tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post2048781775222051617..comments2024-03-19T13:51:56.269+10:00Comments on absolutely beautiful things: No!Anna Spirohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00032398753102441691noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-71468449965929638742011-06-12T14:33:45.102+10:002011-06-12T14:33:45.102+10:00Hello...this is an interesting post and I can defi...Hello...this is an interesting post and I can definitely relate. See I commend you on bravely displaying pretties on your tables and such. I am such a coward and wouldn't consider doing so with my 16 month old. My tot has never grasped what no means so I often have to say "at at" and she will start crying. Sometimes this doesn't even work. They definitely try your patience.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17657213423897010519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-23967457771661422512011-05-29T19:08:57.226+10:002011-05-29T19:08:57.226+10:00I cannot live without 'my things'...our so...I cannot live without 'my things'...our son will just have to learn to handle it with care of listen to my NO! Some glass/pottery things I packed away..but photo's wooden bowls candles.. I tell him..we only touch and put back..it works.elzaan_orpahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01465087733899490475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-9335223911268575042011-05-29T04:53:54.493+10:002011-05-29T04:53:54.493+10:00I want to tell you that I can very much relate. M...I want to tell you that I can very much relate. My little girls (twins) are 2.5 and they have always responded well to 'no', which I can tell you I have congratulated myself about. <br />Well, things have changed, and I am forever shoving books back into our shelves and putting items back into the drawers of my husband's desk. 'No' is not quite as effective as it used to be!Camillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11099412902613816953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-88889362069619144692011-05-29T03:34:38.301+10:002011-05-29T03:34:38.301+10:00My two were so opposite... just like yours, but I ...My two were so opposite... just like yours, but I refused to put up the things I loved and the one who did not choose to acknowledge the "NO" ; ) got with the program... kids learn, and while they make 'break a few things' things are replaceable but memories and lessons taught early on, cannot be replaced! lovely blog!Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09401321564703337528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-1918135401544663762011-05-27T15:15:10.497+10:002011-05-27T15:15:10.497+10:00No advice.. just wanted to say how darling those l...No advice.. just wanted to say how darling those little hands are and your lemons look lovely ;)<br />Enjoy the challenges ... they grow up so fast!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14645300685584089367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-25279082661203784672011-05-27T14:23:25.246+10:002011-05-27T14:23:25.246+10:00Lolo... I feel your pain! For my first and second ...Lolo... I feel your pain! For my first and second (both girls), I kept my pretty things and breakables out and the girls just learnt to be gentle with them - I couldn't get them not to touch but they touched gently... But now I am floundering... I now have twin 19 month old boys who are irresistibly gorgeous.... but highly, highly destructive. My vases of fresh flowers get turned into 'mulch' and my breakables do just that....lol. Its a work in progress - maybe I will just have to revert to the minimalist look.. or try to remember that the flaws (ahem..cracks) and imperfections add character. Love your blog.Marriannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16874948260874438751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-1862781895596339842011-05-26T05:01:48.860+10:002011-05-26T05:01:48.860+10:00Oh Anna, you're doing fine. Just take a deep b...Oh Anna, you're doing fine. Just take a deep breath...Fihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11443061387950036780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-22527434161225505422011-05-26T05:00:52.083+10:002011-05-26T05:00:52.083+10:00Oh Anna, you're doing fine. Just take a deep b...Oh Anna, you're doing fine. Just take a deep breath...Fihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11443061387950036780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-59213039435951102202011-05-26T03:37:34.953+10:002011-05-26T03:37:34.953+10:00That's a hard one Anna! In my case my second i...That's a hard one Anna! In my case my second is in the autism spectrum so a simple "no" sufficed. He just wasn't that adventurous but my daughter the first was unstoppable. I read so many parenting books and I wasn't comfortable with corporal discipline so I never tried flicking but I did follow one tip I read: " It said to say no at the child's level and then to physically remove the child to something that may distract them for a while. The most important part of this is that if you start you have to do it consistently until your child is too tired to continue. From experience it was hard to be consistent but if I wasn't it just turned into a game for her. Just take each time one at a time. Sometimes I pretended I didn't notice that time so that I didn't have to remove her 20-30 times (he he) but it actually was effective.Yer Cinnamon Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14961399474635192033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-15954180509427211822011-05-25T21:10:02.527+10:002011-05-25T21:10:02.527+10:00It does seem to (mostly) be a second-born thing. I...It does seem to (mostly) be a second-born thing. I wonder why?Fionahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04175988518794409281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-64126534318715914032011-05-25T20:58:44.591+10:002011-05-25T20:58:44.591+10:00Distraction, the next best thing when the discipli...Distraction, the next best thing when the discipline doesn't work. Perhaps have an object (book, toy, noisy pot) nearby (change it daily or weekly) so when he does go where you don't want him to you can distract his attention ("Max - where's your favourite book!").<br />You could also try using "no" in another language - something new for them but means that same thing.<br />Nein, Non,etcMagihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11731090492869266671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-52484818310347748452011-05-25T20:19:35.866+10:002011-05-25T20:19:35.866+10:00Funny Anna! Same thing has been happening at our h...Funny Anna! Same thing has been happening at our house this week! Monday- Henry pulled over the vase on the side table, Tuesday it was the lantern on the coffee table & wednesday the wine in the pantry! At least Max has great taste right!? I'm dreaming of a big coloured resin bowl as a stand-in. Good luck. . . Or get some new superglue! LovTTINA KENThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11250417583355464168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-44103763886829103932011-05-25T19:50:45.051+10:002011-05-25T19:50:45.051+10:00Yeah I agree, it's a second child thing... I c...Yeah I agree, it's a second child thing... I caught our little monkey perched on top of our sideboard one day... she actually learnt to climb before she walked!! She is four years old now and still has the mischievous streak. I keep all my nice things around me - no point locking them away for years and not enjoying them!Cultural Histories - Ideology and the Otherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01940270112880920959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-75947458711626346022011-05-25T18:46:45.817+10:002011-05-25T18:46:45.817+10:00Oh I sort of miss the little chubby hand stage! I&...Oh I sort of miss the little chubby hand stage! I'm afraid to say I can't remember what I did. I said 'ah-ah' a lot... loudly... so much so that my neighbours stood to attention next door in their kitchen when I disciplined my 2. I also kept all my pretties out. I never moved a thing. They just learnt the rules. Same at Grans place. Rules there too. Now I want them to touch things... like the folding pile, unpacking the dishwasher, clearing the dishes! A-M xxThe House That A-M Builthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17870752194541203656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-50626114781955555952011-05-25T18:40:32.398+10:002011-05-25T18:40:32.398+10:00I was joking about minimalism. You should keep you...I was joking about minimalism. You should keep your lovely things around. Maybe put the very precious breakable things away for a little while...My little one had a thing for throwing things in the bin! Yikes. xxbrismodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169335258762403261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-3878183776794410192011-05-25T16:17:31.945+10:002011-05-25T16:17:31.945+10:00Never mind the knick knacks, I'm wondering abo...Never mind the knick knacks, I'm wondering about the white chairs I see in the background! I have two Max types at my place and now they're older they're unfortunately even grubbier... boys! A xAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08647407406551661556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-26203759973684153392011-05-25T14:55:12.821+10:002011-05-25T14:55:12.821+10:00You must, must keep your lovely things around you ...You must, must keep your lovely things around you Anna. Regardless of the small, busy and often grimy hands I have constantly wanting to snatch and grab, it's important to still have a visually pleasing environment. It's good for them and as someone who spends so much time at home, it's really important for me. They soon learn anyway.<br /><br />I ordered that "Summers in France" book just last week - I can't wait to get it! Like you, when I receive it, it will take pride of place on my coffee table where it will bring joy each time I look at it...there's sure to be a bowl of lemons lurking somewhere nearby also:)<br />Meredy xocount it all joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14708861124077922586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-38605786431806648002011-05-25T13:39:00.484+10:002011-05-25T13:39:00.484+10:00I'm no expert on this stuff and hesitant to of...I'm no expert on this stuff and hesitant to offer my opinion as I'm not yet a parent but I've observed my cousin use the phrase "please don't do that" with her children (4yrs & 18 months). <br /><br />Some children from an early age seem to dislike being instructed what to do (I was definitely one and I'm often reminded of when I was 2yrs old and got cross with a shop keeper for telling me what to do. I told him only my mother could talk to me like that!). <br /><br />"Please don't do that" seems more suggestive and leaves it open to the child to decide rather than being instructed what to do. Who knows? it might work?<br /><br />I agree about leaving things as they are and letting the children adapt to that environment. It might be just about trying many different tactics until you find the one that works for both you and Max.<br /><br />Good luck, Anna! I bet you're a wonderful mother and I'm sure you will find it! In the meantime, I bet it will challenge your creativity and design skills! xxPeta Ruddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02982619390925180081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-51890870263049764252011-05-25T10:37:23.425+10:002011-05-25T10:37:23.425+10:00This is a stage for Max, he won't always be a ...This is a stage for Max, he won't always be a grabber :-) For now though he is so little and still learning. How about you help him to look at the things carefully and then pop them back? <br /><br />You made to compromise a little until he get's that 'No' means 'Don't touch' and pop a few things up higher. I like to do the swap method by when I take something away I replace it immediately with a child appropriate object (toy, book, etc)Delightful Domestic Sciencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05565570506045238228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-44259345296283005142011-05-25T08:52:18.318+10:002011-05-25T08:52:18.318+10:00Another very intersting side Ashleighelizabeth...
...Another very intersting side Ashleighelizabeth...<br /><br />In some ways I agree with what you are saying but I personally will continue to keep my pretty things around me because that is the way I live and I want to teach my children, who I love more than anything in this world, to appreciate lovely things and all the hard work which goes into having lovely things and also I think it's important to teach them to respect the things of others... <br />It is definitely a controversial subject...Anna Spirohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00032398753102441691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-68682508144721367012011-05-25T08:48:39.600+10:002011-05-25T08:48:39.600+10:00I TOTALLY understand you dilema-I have the same pr...I TOTALLY understand you dilema-I have the same problem over here. I just try to be consistant and the flick is good too. The suprising thing is, before you know it he will no longer care about what is on the table and then you'll miss it, because he is no longer a baby but a little man.<br />xo<br />CarolineBoho Farm and Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01815251022099585746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-24549608297357139572011-05-25T08:27:57.103+10:002011-05-25T08:27:57.103+10:00all you say is no, and that is all he hears. he...all you say is no, and that is all he hears. he's a curious little person discovering his world he only wants to see, and touch and feel with his whole body. with my children if I say No it is almost always followed by an explaination as to why. ex: no, that could burn you. etc. I have made my home more minamilistic to accomidate this for a time. I have the rest of my life to have fragile pretty things on display. but my little ones are the most fragile and precious and will only be small for a time. I'd rather say YES! look. feel. touch. do. discover.ashleighelizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10071960237503815895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-47559965823767349972011-05-25T08:19:01.178+10:002011-05-25T08:19:01.178+10:00Those chubby little hands are sooooo cute though.....Those chubby little hands are sooooo cute though.......KG xKelly Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236852602203369436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-60727905937101554672011-05-25T07:40:07.505+10:002011-05-25T07:40:07.505+10:00William was/still is so much more defiant than Oli...William was/still is so much more defiant than Olivia. Keep persisting with Max and perhaps move the really precious things out of harms way for the moment.<br />It's an ongoing thing, but in a few years he will be trained well I'm sure.Sharnelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00092510489608990414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2588562210437039078.post-65363767623678638122011-05-25T07:03:56.798+10:002011-05-25T07:03:56.798+10:00Ashley, I am totally with you. Discipline is such...Ashley, I am totally with you. Discipline is such a controversial subject and I had to be very careful in the way I wrote this post. But it seems that the little tap or flick as you call it on his hand still doesn't seem to stop him. I think Louise is right in that the 2nd child is so much more confident than the 1st child and also like some have mentioned above he seems to be way too curious to accept no so maybe that's a good thing. <br /><br />Brismod - loved your answer! I wish I could like minimalism but THINGS just keep on creeping onto tables! I can't help myself!!Anna Spirohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00032398753102441691noreply@blogger.com